When Size Becomes an Excuse
Not long ago, I was encouraging a guy to try Jiu-Jitsu.
We were mid-conversation when he hit me with this:
“But Coach… haven’t you seen how big he is?”
He was talking about another guy in the class. Let’s call him Joe.
Joe wasn’t a giant, but he was well-built—muscular, strong, clearly someone who had put time into training.
And yet, Joe was new. He had maybe a week of training under his belt. But he was already obsessed with learning the art.
So I looked back at the guy and said:
“Exactly.”
Joe had physical strength—sure.
But now he was stacking another skill: technical ability.
That’s the game most men don’t even realize they’re playing.
It’s not about size. It’s about how many skills and assets you’re stacking.
Skills Over Size: The High-Value Game
Here’s the real issue:
The guy who said that wasn’t making an observation—he was revealing a limiting belief.
The assumption was: If I’m not built like him, what’s the point?
That mindset will cripple your growth. It’s rooted in the belief that size trumps skill—when in reality, it’s always been skills over size.
It’s the same as saying:
- “I’ll never be rich—I wasn’t born into money.”
- “I can’t get strong—I don’t have good genetics.”
- “I’m not smart—I didn’t go to university.”
All of that?
Excuses disguised as logic.
What actually matters is this:
Are you stacking the skills you can control?
- You can build physical strength
- You can learn Jiu-Jitsu or another martial art
- You can grow financially
- You can develop mental toughness
- You can deepen your faith
- You can become a better leader, partner, or parent
None of that depends on what you were “born with.”
It depends on how you show up—consistently.
Why You Need to Think Like an Investor
Think of your life like a long-term investment strategy.
Whether you participate or not, life is moving forward.
In 5 or 10 years, you’re going to end up somewhere—and become someone.
So ask yourself:
Are you intentionally building the man you’re becoming?
If not, you’ll just become an older version of who you are today.
And that’s a problem.
Because admiration doesn’t move you forward.
Neither does comparison.
Neither does standing still while others stack.
But consistent self-improvement does.
📌 Want to take real action today? Read this next:
👉 Why Motivation Isn’t Enough: 4 Brutal Truths That Actually Drive Action
What High-Value Men Actually Do
High-value men don’t chase one big skill. They’re committed to stacking skills across every area of life: physical, mental, financial, and spiritual.
💪 Physical
Strength, endurance, athleticism.
Check out my take on how to build it smart, not bro-science dumb:
👉 Get Jacked: Finding the Right Training Method for Your Goals
🧠 Mental
Discipline. Focus. Clarity.
Your mind is your operating system. Upgrade it.
Start here:
👉 The 18-Minute Rule: Why Mastery Is Easier Than You Think
💰 Financial
Learn how money works. Learn how to earn it.
Then learn how to keep it.
A great place to start: How to Build Wealth at Any Age – Ramsey Solutions
🧭 Spiritual
Faith. Purpose. Legacy.
Not just how much you lift—but what you stand for.
Final Takeaway: Stack What Actually Matters
The size of your muscles, your bank account, your discipline, your faith—
they’re all built the same way: stack by stack.
Don’t let someone else’s head start be your excuse to stay behind.
Use it as fuel.
Someone else might be ahead. That doesn’t mean you can’t catch up—or even pass them—if you start now.
The game isn’t about where you started.
It’s about who keeps showing up to play.
🟢 Want a structured path to build strength, discipline, and grit from the ground up?
Check out my GPP training course:
👉 theanvarmethod.com/courses
